Hello, De-Bill, you wrote: M>> And if it is at some instant interesting to the child to do and to study in nothing? DB> an avitaminosis, excessive loading On the contrary, low loading, i.e. feeble physical training does the child (and the adult too) apathetic. DB> emotional burning-off Psychological endurance often directly depends on the physical. As well as speed of recovery after loadings. M>> earlier parents could force, including rather rigid methods, DB> to Force to think, remember, understand rigid methods it is impossible. On questions from discharge "as it is better - for fear or for conscience" answers have been given long before our birth. Theoretically "for conscience" it is better, but it only in spherical vacuum.) ) And will power strongly interferes with practice. If the person weak-willed (and the child on-definition those , than it is less) no conscience forces the weak-willed person to arrive on-conscience. The weak-willed person will go on the transaction with own conscience, to be accustomed to say lies (first of all to itself) and to dodge. Therefore, in business of education of rising generation first of all it is necessary to bring up will power. It becomes through that "good breeding" and in any way differently. The mankind yet did not invent other recipes - i.e. the adult person in the first years replaces to the child conscience, i.e. decently attentions to spend for the child it is necessary. And if in 7-8 years to the child there are problems they began, actually, in 3-4 years, when on the child, to put it mildly, . And then suddenly at parents at that conscience woke up, they allow to press the child and to search for problems in it.) ) And a problem practically always in looseness and which happen because of laziness of parents, i.e. because of weak-willed adults-blockheads. DB> such that works only with stupid monotonous activity, and, during the certain moments and in certain limits. As a maximum, it is possible to force to sit stupidly at desktop and to look in the book with problems. To force to understand and solve the task it is impossible. It is possible if to start to communicate and clarify with the child a course of its thoughts. I am regularly occupied by it, all turns out. And yes, the , more cynically also is more ill-bred , the more difficult all is given to it. Yes, I should use here such banal things: "well, sit down exactly", "concentrate on the task", "try not to make any error, to hurry up not mandatory", and even "gather, a rag!" And other. It without zoom-in, a negative i.e. as joking, but thus inevitably and both it understand. Because other operating mechanism is not present. Alternative methods - "through game", "through interest" can serve exceptional as surroundings/addition. In itself they possess modest potential, well approach only for something absolutely simple or for input occupations. Besides, start to work not earlier, than the child starts to understand that round it happens. Basically, the good example at an explanation can replace all this "game". Here there was at me a ward, 11 years, a problem with negative numbers. Here in any. The example-3+5 through time solves incorrectly though I rose, walked before it 3 steps back, then 5 steps forward and it forced to walk. Drew a balloon which delays effort 5 upwards, to it suspended a load on 3 kg etc. - all permanently is mistaken in the elementary examples. It is direct a trouble. While I did not suggest it to translate plus and a minus in money, more truly, in a direction of their driving or in a sign of the one who to whom should. Here at once accurate understanding. I dictate it a problem from a head, yet did not dictate up to the end, he already in mind solved it. I such in mind solve more slowly.)) a problem from discharge: there is you and your two friends And and, both owe to you on 30. You went to cafe, ordered identical meal for three, And paid 70, Would pay 110, you did not pay, who to whom and how many should as a result? I yet did not stop to dictate, and he already asks:" And are long it is possible to transfer? There just it turns out for me in cafe ")) And generally this funny case puzzled, . Generation next. (M>> and now divorced , fighters for the right of children to grow degenerates. DB> you personally with what raise the children? Whether strongly you hindered by justice in it? Well, here it is necessary not to accuse each other in advance, and to share thoughts. For me stupid dictatorship (over the child) differs from proper attention just a word"stupid". Outwardly stupid and not stupid dictatorship can be indiscernible (at first sight), but in a stupid case the parent stupidly hammers on interests of the child and provides the where principal interest of the parent in that took away less quanta of attention and did not irritate once again. In the second case hardness of the adult is mandatory should have the unique reason for each unique case, i.e. The child should understand accurately that it not the adult in the bad mood and hinders the child normally to live (and children often so consider, dividing adults on kind/malicious), and it and has been subjected to a reproach after the adult in a situation. In general, severity of severity . When at the parent the severity mask causeless and actually does not depend on actions of the child the educational I pound from such severity exactly zero. It is possible to name such "severity" safely bestiality ordinary. And in knees in such scenario are engaged just .