Topic: Education lockup
The most interesting post from Yana Frank Nenavist to parents and unwillingness to study and work. I will result it here completely We 25 years ago arrived here, and there was at us a set of friends and acquaintances about our age. The majority or had small children, or they in any near future were born. Accordingly now to all these children of 25-30 years, and it is interesting to watch that with whom became. Observation the first: behind several few exceptions all these people (who is a question of those arrived 25 years ago, my comment) have higher education, and not bad professionally took place. Not all work on the received speciality. But work all. And all life, and it is successful. Love the operations, tell that at them there interesting, etc. Children they were engaged, rejoicing that here for this purpose there are more possibilities. To tutors leaded, on any music, chess, sports sections, languages. Many desperately saved money that children could "be learned where want" Though in Germany formation free, or nearly so the free. But parents hinted that if who wants to England or to America, in abrupt high school - they want, that also this possibility at their children was. As a result we here sat down and counted, and it turned out that 90 % from these children did not end a grammar school, 80 % even left "high school" (Realschule) ahead of time therefore by it it was hardly included "Hauptschule", it is analog of that at us was after the termination of 8 classes. The same of 80 % do not know that they want to do in (professional) future. And some simply fairly say that do not want anything. And still a wish couple sound, but they absurd, and it is not clear, as they should come true, if for their implementation does not become any . But it is all all right - I about it already wrote. I do not know, how so it turned out and what to tell. Me such frightens and afflicts, because I would like, that at all these children all was good, and to live it it was easy and interesting. But the described circumstances do not promote it. And the main thing - there is no saying why so it turned out. The second observation: counting, I terribly was surprised that kind 30 % from them became the present alcoholics or addicts. Mean such at whom really serious problem with it, and it is necessary to throw and be treated in a serious way somehow (some already on some times pushed (. Thus the narcotism meets rarely, and here - it is a lot of. Two from this circle already died of drugs, without living till 30 years. And one guy perished in failure which itself and made - it went very drunk at the wheel on . Thus at all these children parents - "not at all". Here absolutely. Speak. Start what to drink, looking at parents (more often), or that predisposition is descended. And so are families where to alcohol the absolute indifference reigns, anybody there the alcoholic was not, normal doctors, lawyers, engineers and other, all life got used to study, and then to work, and to rejoice in life to simple things. And here at children it turned out somehow so a lot of stress and so few pleasures that they seized for the such. And still I have a third observation where I see coincidence. At several parents of the relation with children were not added absolutely. Not that that they there swore (who does not swear at children-teenagers?) Or complained of absence of interests, the bad study, and a disorder in a children's room. No, I about such stories. When between children and parents the present, fierce hatred. Unimaginable insults, roughnesses, and sometimes and . At someone already both police involved, and to the child gave the chance to lodge in a youth hostel, that not at parents because there the heat reached to very terrible. And so - all who in this situation appeared are there were parents, which so wanted that child, so it wanted what not to describe words. Not simply wanted, planned and rejoiced. It from those parents who already for years writhed in hysterics. And the baby did not turn out. And they could not without tears generally on any to look. And they tried, and were treated. And then at them it turned out, and they sobbed from affection. They sobbed with happiness, as in most a serial. So waited, so wanted, so rejoiced. When the baby appeared, there all has been prepared, so it is beautiful, so it is lovely. And they so loved it, so loved. Directly such some years of uninterrupted euphoria which directly did not come to an end. Each time when speech came about these children, in each phrase there was "our happiness, our charm"and"we so are happy, already so much years transited, and all of us cannot come round for pleasure that it at us is" and so on. All for years told history about how they dreamed of this child as waited as are grateful to destiny that it at last turned out. And I somehow cannot catch, when the pendulum was swung in other side. But then suddenly euphoria ceased. Children still were "our happiness", but to it was added:" Well here - at ours character "is gashed. And everything when to children was years till 8-10 became rather noticeable. Here already friends were surprised: and that these sweet children mum beat it also such awful words call? And that it they so to the father are rude - we at all did not know that such happens. And when it was 11-12, already there was a catastrophe. And to 16 catastrophe already reached universal scales - the justice has already been involved , serious problems already began. Which even psychologists of concept have no how to solve. Why so? ? Spoiled? Such blind f looked at the children, what problems in an emphasis did not see, when still it was possible to correct all? And here all after all - normal, good people. And all wanted as better. Both tried, and raised, as could. Even more than an average tried! That is at the good formed hard-working parents who transited the childhood-adolescence-youth in the USSR, the blockheads getting progressive liberal German education which also not all mastered grew. And further it does a tremendous output: As a whole a simple way: left school, got any education (on is mandatory academic, here is also excellent practical), started to try operation, in due course selected to itself a congenial employment, started to make the plans and the life - somehow here this scenario turns out at minority. I here think and there can be this scenario generally somehow itself got rid, and we and did not note? There can be a truth that in 10 years all of us will be replaced with robots, the state with all distributes the unconditional income that there was no war. And absolutely other things and interests become valuable? Or can already be any quite real forms of life and a survival in a society, normal, recognized and nothing bad which in any way do not include study were born on light. Operation? (And what then?) Can be simple all of us lagged behind life, and we can not recognize this way on which they go. And it, maybe, through ten years will be norm? And our representation how to the person - becomes ancient and ridiculous? Funny, yes? To Leave school, get education, to start to work it a simple way which turns out at minority. And what then the difficult? And at the majority what way turns out? To throw school and a horse-radish not to do, dangle on a neck of parents, in expectation of inspiration? Yana surrenders to me confuses cause and effect. On the children, on children of friends whom permanently I see, analyzing the course of life, I come to a conclusion that, at first, training it always violence. Finally violence over self. That is it is necessary to force. At first the child parents force to study - learn to study, then it forces itself(himself) when the understanding what for it comes it is necessary to do. Secondly, training without education does not happen. These are essential components of formation. Besides parents, then - at first bring up themselves. And, thirdly, at training it is necessary to pay much attention to a cultural component. Absence of culture is a source notorious , a brothel, delay, etc. If not to fulfill these three points, then to the child it will be very difficult. To bring up to it itself all the same it is necessary, parents are not eternal. But it will be what is the time missed. Therefore if you love children, it is necessary to force, and it is not necessary to be sorry at all. On mine children from Yana post not , them at all did not love, for them felt sorry, and the pity grew up blockheads.