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Topic: How the help influences the person?

Whether helped you with life simply so, without mercenary promptings? Means not parents who all the same fulfill an instinct, and absolutely another's people (for example, on religious beliefs). How it will be reflected in you if this help was very significant so even anybody from your family could not so to help? Whether you will feel obliged and whether begin to help another with a trouble? An example: you worked as the taxi driver and at you hijacked the car. Without it you cannot work and there is nothing to feed a family. Live in the poor country, in your city the machine in rent there is no place to take (or in a minus will work). And at you a family, children... Then any uncle-millionaire  over you also gives you the machine. Well here decided to help simply so. And such question. If any another's person (not dangerous) asks to bring up you free of charge (to you on the way), but at it there is nothing to pay - you tell that "I the taxi driver, free of charge do not carry" (as always spoke earlier), or carry free of charge? And a main point. How to name the person to whom presented the machine (when it was in need) but when you, being in need, asked it to bring up - it sent you. Or when to the person presented the house/resolved free of charge to live many long years - and it sent the one who asked to spend the night. Whether there is a word for the description of similar behavior?

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You  ? Anybody to you does not present the machine

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Hello, wl., you wrote: wl.> you  ? Anybody to you does not present the machine And if it happens?

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Hello, Shmj, you wrote: S> Hello, wl., you wrote: wl.>> you  ? Anybody to you does not present the machine S> And if it happens? About then carried, not to everyone so rolls

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Hello, wl., you wrote: wl.> about then carried, not to everyone so rolls But a question that not in it... How you affects? Whether begin to help people with a trouble? Or will think - "what that cranky to me the machine adjusted, here the idiot".? And further it is basic for free nobody to carry.

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Hello, Shmj, you wrote: S> Hello, wl., you wrote: wl.>> about then carried, not to everyone so rolls S> But a question that not in it... How you affects? Whether begin to help people with a trouble? S> or will think - "what that cranky to me the machine adjusted, here the idiot".? And further it is basic for free nobody to carry. Not I will become certainly. To me to spit on people generally on all

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Hello, Shmj, you wrote: S> As the help influences the person? As all that happens to the person. For the person it is the inductive experience. Accordingly, receiving the help, he will consider its obtaining possible, with higher probability, than considered earlier - especially in similar circumstances and from similar people. As it begins to estimate the similar help as something closer to a norm of behavior in a society (than considered earlier) and will be stronger than is earlier inclined to show similar behavior if estimates it positively.

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Hello, wl., you wrote: wl.> not I will become certainly. To me to spit on people generally on all And on a family, on parents, on friends?

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Hello, viellsky, you wrote: V> also will be stronger than is earlier inclined to show similar behavior if estimates it positively. And what if to the person presented the machine - and it sent you  when you, being in need, asked that it brought up you? How you estimate such person? Or if actually presented the house/resolved to live free of charge many long years - and it sent you when you asked to spend the night. How it is called?

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Hello, Shmj, you wrote: whether S> Helped you with life simply so, without mercenary promptings? In automobile sphere, time about it speech came, people disinterestedly help each other permanently. To light, push, pull out. Because today you , and tomorrow I. There is still a variety of the help which to you costs nothing - for example, to take the summer resident at a bus stop and to throw to a city. You lose pair of minutes on fit-disembarkation, and to the person save half an hour-hours of waiting of the bus, moreover in comfort reaches - one pluses. But here, for example, there was at us an employee, which core approximately in the same region, as I, and she repeatedly tried to sign me on its delivery about operation. All the same type on the way. And here I left in a deaf failure. Because it turns out already the obligation, another story altogether...

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Hello, Shmj, you wrote: whether S> Helped you with life simply so, without mercenary promptings? There is an excellent film on this subject: whether https://www.kinopoisk.ru/film/zaplati-d … rpage/100/ S> you Will feel the obliged? Yes will be. S> and whether begin to help another with a trouble? But all depends on education.

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Hello, alexsmirnoff, you wrote: A> There is still a variety of the help which to you costs nothing - for example, to take the summer resident at a bus stop and to throw to a city. Aha, only stops about one of 13, on my counts. As that went and decided to conduct statistics. If there are places and to a forehead on the way - that about one of 13 only . Still the part stops and offers the total, learning that you want to pay at the price of the bus - sharply pushes gas.

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Hello, alexsmirnoff, you wrote: A> Hello, Shmj, you wrote: whether S>> Helped you with life simply so, without mercenary promptings? A> in automobile sphere, time about it speech came, people disinterestedly help each other permanently. A> to light, push, pull out. A> because today you , and tomorrow I. With to light, many  start to ache "I am afraid the controler burns down".

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Hello, wl., you wrote: wl.> you  ? Anybody to you does not present the machine the Former wife/mistress easily sends. But kvalia-sercher not the mistress, do not present.

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Hello, wraithik, you wrote: A>> In automobile sphere, time about it speech came, people disinterestedly help each other permanently. A>> to light, push, pull out. A>> because today you , and tomorrow I. W> with to light, many  start to ache "I am afraid the controler burns down". Owners of BMW do not have soul.

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Hello, wl., you wrote: wl.> you  ? Anybody to you does not present the machine http://www.forumdaily.com/odinokij-otec … o-kollegi/ https://ain.ua/2016/08/06/sotrudniki-sk … kupki-avto https://ladypanda.net/istorii/paren-ezd … u-po-10-km

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Hello, Shmj, you wrote: S> And what if to the person presented the machine - and it sent you  when you, being in need, asked that it brought up you? How you estimate such person? If "sent " - that the ill-bred boor, it is pure because of the failure form. S> or if actually presented the house/resolved to live free of charge many long years - and it sent you when you asked to spend the night. S> as it is called? It is called the abstract questions.

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Hello, Shmj, you wrote: S> Hello, wl., you wrote: wl.>> not I will become certainly. To me to spit on people generally on all S> And on a family, on parents, on friends? Caught! Here the sister I adore

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Hello, marcopolo, you wrote: M> Hello, wraithik, you wrote: A>>> In automobile sphere, time about it speech came, people disinterestedly help each other permanently. A>>> to light, push, pull out. A>>> because today you , and tomorrow I. W>> with to light, many  start to ache "I am afraid the controler burns down". M> owners of BMW do not have soul. M> it at them in a bum. But access that is...

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Hello, k55, you wrote: k55> Hello, wl., you wrote: wl.>> you  ? Anybody to you the machine does not present k55> http://www.forumdaily.com/odinokij-otec … o-kollegi/ k55> https://ain.ua/2016/08/06/sotrudniki-sk … kupki-avto k55> https://ladypanda.net/istorii/paren-ezd … u-po-10-km I in school almost 10 km went, 10 years, anybody did not give the machine to me. Here

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Hello, k55, you wrote: k55> http://www.forumdaily.com/odinokij-otec … o-kollegi/ the Poppycock any. It is a minimum of 6-7 hours on road, and even all 8. Really one more 4-hour change would not pay back journey on FROM, or even by a taxi? , someone the storyteller. k55> https://ain.ua/2016/08/06/sotrudniki-sk … kupki-avto Nihrena is not clear. He refused a megadollar, or from tesla? Different orders as though. k55> https://ladypanda.net/istorii/paren-ezd … u-po-10-km Soplivo is a little, but it is unique history without explicit discrepancies.

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Hello, Shmj, you wrote: S> And a main point. How to name the person to whom presented the machine (when it was in need) but when you, being in need, asked it to bring up - it sent you. Or when to the person presented the house/resolved free of charge to live many long years - and it sent the one who asked to spend the night. Whether there is a word for the description of similar behavior? Not to name in any way, it in another way works. 1. It is impossible to help simply so is produces cheapskates. Especially on religious beliefs, something is written to bibles of type "if to you the beggar came, lend to it". Therefore expensive gifts (the house, the machine) are normally arranged as "well, will pay when money will be" or "on to do a bit of traveling while the will not recover/will buy". 2. Additional overloadings can be exposed only if it is a question of professional work. Then accurately makes a reservation, on what purposes the car or the house can be used. But nobody waits from the father of a large family that it will carry somebody free of charge - the machine to it is presented for a family, to carry someone or not its this private affair. I know 4 cases of donation of a car, in one of them so the question is not necessary. 3. Everyone helps as can/knows. In a society where mutual aid works commercially at anybody even thoughts do not arise to be set by similar questions. Someone submits the beggar, someone pays a trip to the Viennese archive. All people different, at all the possibilities and preferences.

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Hello, Shmj, you wrote: wl.>> you  ? Anybody to you does not present the machine S> And if it happens? Not , and presented? I congratulate

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Hello, Ops, you wrote: Ops> Imho, someone the storyteller. Translators-zhurnaljugi storytellers. "Trenton Lewis' legs ached from the 11-mile walk he made every morning to get to his 4 a.m. shift. And yet the 21-year-old dutifully did it for seven long months." Translated in "4 hour change" instead of with change to 4 mornings. FROM in  only in big cities.

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Hello, alexsmirnoff, you wrote: A> There is still a variety of the help which to you costs nothing - for example, to take the summer resident at a bus stop and to throw to a city. A> you lose pair of minutes on fit-disembarkation, and to the person save half an hour-hours of waiting of the bus, moreover in comfort reaches - one pluses. Well it is to a clod as. I, for example, will lose not pair of minutes, and all comfort from a trip. For me a principal cause to go by the machine, instead of by the bus - that I in the machine one and nobody interferes in my personal space. And the stranger on an adjacent seat is it turns out all the same that I went by the bus instead of the machine. Exchanged the comfort for its comfort not clearly for the sake of what. I not so love strangers that the pleasure from a kind act moved this inconvenience.